i am a long time fan of barbara’s and sometimes i do disagree with her too. still i remain her fan because over the years we have come to a place to respect our differences as well as our commonality. she stretches my mind which is a very good thing.
in this case i disagree with her as well. i understand from a clinical point of view too well what infertile couple must deal with in all areas of their lives. i have also seen the impact on surrogates and the parents of the babies they carry as well. while i certainly agree adoption is an awesome choice (mom of five here with one adopted chile in the mix) i also understand the need to cherish and raise a piece of ourselves representing the union God has blessed. i can’t imagine God not honoring and blessing families who make this choice because the child that results is just as precious in His sight.
i have practicing as a nicu nurse for 18 years now and have seen amazing things in the arena of maternal child medicine. honestly sometimes i find myself on my knees questioning whether or not we are going too far, still, every time God gently reminds me Who is ultimately in control.
I totally agree with you.
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When I read this, I just wanted to give you a big hug. We could cry together. While anyone who has not experienced infertility may be sympathetic, the pain is so deep that it is impossible to understand without the experience.
Infertility is the only thing I have found that is difficult to talk about with my husband.
Because I have been called to adoption–long before experiencing infertility–we already know that we will not do IUI or IVF. I think there is no universally correct answer to this question. I wouldn’t look down my nose at someone who chooses IUI or IVF any more than I would at someone who chooses to adopt or to remain childless.
Becoming a surrogate mother can be a life changing experience that brings joy and satisfaction to the surrogate mother. Surrogate mothers are not just having babies for couples who want to be parents, they are building families.
Jen I agree with you 100%! I commented on Barbara’s blog too (love her!). But thank you for taking the time to eloquently describe your experience and view in more depth than I could. Praise God for your twins!